Every woman dreams of been loved by an alpha male who can make all
her world perfect. Every guy wants the ever green diva with the charm, poise
and fire of a vixen. So here are possible steps, in no giving order, with the
assurance to make it happen.
STEP 1
CREATE A UNIQUE PERSONA SUITABLE.
I do not care what person you have set eyes on. That person
is winnable. Be it the queen of royal Britain or the gal/guy next door. It can
be the boss or superior you need on your side at the office. Do your research
on what that person is attracted to and create a persona that matches that. To
win anyone, you need to make the person see you in the light of what they love
in people.
It is very dangerous to build an image based on falsehood because it
never sustains itself. Under the right lightening, everything crumbles.
Therefore, build an image showing off all your best original attributes. In
doing that, ask yourself; what kind of person do I need to be to this
individual? Once you know this, you are on the path to building your public
image.
STEP 2
CONNECT TO PEOPLE.
Having created a unique persona, do not try too hard to make
it work. Be natural in your element. The most important factor to put in place
will be taking good care of yourself. People should see you as one who takes
good care of himself.
Only after that is step two possible. This is when you
learn to connect with people. Your bosses, your friends and everyone. The
object of your attention must feel important in your life. Remember that no two
individuals are the same. Therefore, connect to this person as to share their life’s
passions.
A)
Be understanding and patient. Learn to listen
and seek them out before you talk back. And since that cannot be always,
apologies when you speak out of turn.
B)
Create trust in him/her. Give them the right to
believe in your discretion, your sense of honor and the reliability of your
person.
C)
Treat that person as a hero in life. We all need
to be adored. If you make anyone feel like life revolves around their
importance to you, they become in love with the idea and gravitate to you for
reasons to feel good about themselves.
D)
I have learnt in life that the key to open
people up to you is to be open to them. Test this, in the process of bonding;
share a secret of perceived secret. The lady/man of your dreams will most
likely open theirs to you too. They feel affinity to you through shared
secrets.
E)
Finally, cultivate a positive and up attitude
towards people. To share love is to receive love. I guess Ghandi did show us
that. The more you love and share with anyone, the more you plant in them the
need to love and share with you. If you make it rain, you are sure to get wet
too……… African proverb for giving and receiving.
To get anyone to love you, learn
to connect to them both individually and collectively.
STEP 3
BE AUTHENTIC, BE VULNERABLE.
It is important
as a person to show strength. A woman who can hold her own part of any bargain
is not only considered sexy and formidable. Have you ever felt the amazons
depicted as anything but incredibly sexy and beautiful. And if you have heard
of the supreme alpha male, then you already know what I mean. Be authentic and
strong. Have a set character and reliability. Let people know you to be true to
your words and deeds. And to now sweeten the deal, feel free to be occasionally
weak and show flaws.
Call at times to lean on her/him. It’s ok to cuddle, even
for a man. Though others might see your strength, do not be afraid to show her
you are needful of her always. After all, we all need to feel relevant in a
relationship that calls us important. Be strong, but be vulnerable to the one
you have eyes on.
STEP 4
BE CONFIDENT IN YOUR SEXUALITY
It’s amazing how much people feel afraid or uncomfortable in
their sexuality. There is nothing wrong with been fiery or brazen. It’s okay to
be bold, to be shy or to be playful. Learn to be comfortable with your body.
Been naked with someone is not meant to be intimidating……when did pulling off
your clothes become anything but liberating. Its free, it is fun, it is to be
alive. You can never compare skinny dipping to the pool.
Both might be fun, but
one is more fun than the other…….winks. Be confident in your sexuality. It is
what it is. Pot belly, tiny boobs, bowlegs, or the sagging thighs…… I have seen
people who are attracted to them all.
STEP 5
INDIVIDUAL PROGRAMMING
This I know you have been waiting for. To get anyone to love
you get them in the scope of your telescope. Zoom in close. It’s time to get
up-close and personal.
a)
First, you find out what he/she likes. Like I
said earlier, be it boss at work or gal/boy next door, what do u see them
doing? What are they known to appreciate? Make a list of that and let’s get
busy on them.
b)
Secondly, we make time for the person. Time is
needed to make yourself obvious to the person. Draw positive attention to
yourself. Having created a unique persona, shed light on yourself. Be seen and
be heard. Get them to admire or like you. Come strong as intelligent whenever
you are heard, yet do not be loud. Also get into their activities and make them
your friend.
c)
Set a date. Add some more dates. Be lively,
entertaining and very interesting. Most importantly, be a great date. Give
him/her the time of his/her life. The experience of perfection, according to
their likes. Hey! Do not sleep through the opera. If you do not get it, be
conscious to ask and be taught. It’s very endearing because he/she feels you
are both sensitive and vulnerable.lol. That is not bad at all. You have given
her the responsible task of teaching you something new. A need to become prima.
d)
Finally, now, that you have things in motion,
keep it exciting. You already have a load of information on what makes the
person tick. Keep them spiraling in a load of fun and before things settle in
and the magic seeks depth, you would have been loved. You are now the product
of coordinated symphony.
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