Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts

Sunday, 20 March 2016

Please Help!! I Lied to My Fiance that I Am a Virgin, Now Our Wedding Day is Close – Lady Laments


A soon-to-be wife who cajoled her fiance with being a virgin is currently scared of losing him as their wedding draws nearer.



Nigerian Psychologist, Joro Olumofin has shared the story of a lady whose lie about being a virgin is set to be exposed. Read the interesting details below:

Saturday, 12 March 2016

Pst Chris Oyakhilome And Wife Finally Opens Up And Splits Totally - See Reasons Here!

Wife of Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, founder of Christ Embassy Church, Anita, has finalized divorce proceedings in the United Kingdom. A statement released by her legal solicitors in the UK reads:

“We have been requested by Anita Oyakhilome to confirm that on February 8, 2016 a decree absolute was pronounced in the High Court of Justice Principal Registry of the Family Division dissolving her marriage to Christian Onehirokpeana Oyakhilome. Anita Oyakhilome would like to confirm that she is no longer involved in or part of Christ Embassy always known as Believers Loveworld Inc.”
News broke in 2014 that Anita reportedly made the first move to severe ties from her estranged husband by filing for divorce in a London court citing irreconcilable differences as reason for her decision. 

Following the controversy, the ministry pulled down her profile from the church’s website, and her name was conspicuously missing from ‘Rhapsody of Realities’, a devotional she co-authored with her husband for many years. Anita, who later took to blogging, wrote on her self-titled blog, www.pastoranita.org, messages which suggested that her marriage to the pastor was rocky and abusive.


Anita and Chris were married in 1991 and have two daughters. She has since reverted to her maiden name: Anita Ebhodaghe

Friday, 11 March 2016

5 TOP FANTASIES OF NIGERIAN MEN

Men and Fantasies! Hmmmmm, I don't think this was an easy nut to crack for me. I first took a survey among most of my friends....... the casual acquaintances ......... and nearly had a heart attack. It took some re-phrasing to get Guys to talk about fantasies that were not solely sexual. Do We as men want it so bad?



NO 1

First on the list was definitely sexual. The threesome dream. Its funny that they all wanted to have two ladies at a time and no one wanted to share one woman with ...even his best friend. 

More surprising, was how sixty percent named it as their first fantasy. I have to take a truth serum and find mine...... Well, there is no way am telling mine that easy....

NO 2

Ladies will find this unbelievably stupid but do you have any idea the number of men that dream about been raped? I must admit I am not an exception. Most men continue this dream long into old age and those who have it fulfilled bragged about it.

If you wanna enter the psyche of the Nigerian male, you will come to find that been raped is perfect. It excuses their part in the act. You excuse sleeping with her with the claim that you were raped.

Hehehehehehehe ! Daniel actually but it in the best way...
   
''I actually want mine to be by multiple women. Like a group of Amazon women who have been hunting for a man through out a solid decade, he said. ... May they take me out like hunting dogs bring down a deer''

NO 3 

We all have a power trip fantasy. Every guy wants to be powerful. Rich, influential, Famous, Powerful. Some dream to be Presidents and politicians, others might ascribe to financial, religious or charismatic power

If there is any thing craved for by any man, it is to not fade away in irrelevance. We all dream to become something in life that makes us relevant to mankind. This is the Ego/component that makes a man.

NO 4


“Location, location, location” might be the motto of real estate agents, but for many men it’s also a main feature of their fantasies. Whether it’s a tropical beach at night, the hood of their car, a sunny park in spring or the kitchen, sex in specific places is one of the most exciting fantasies for many men.

Still you should be surprised when you hear weird suggestions too. Airplane toilets, moving trains or been strung up on a rotating fan..... I have heard a couple crazies think things that will make your ear red in embarrassment. Elevators will feel archaic next to their dreams.

NO 5
In a society where men are often expected to take initiative, it shouldn’t come as a shock that many of them fantasize about doing the exact opposite and completely giving up control to a woman. Fantasies involving this range from simply being lazy in bed to being tied up and ravished by a woman.

It goes close to fantasies in the league of getting raped. Its basically the loss of control to a dominant woman...... Do i love that.... not really. You wont tie me up, am hot water-phobic but you can take control, as am a fan of that.

Thursday, 3 March 2016

THE CHEATERS GUIDE....if you must cheat,these rules you must master

Infidelity in a committed relationship is a serious breach of trust. Regardless of whether or not you think you can get away with it, if you're tempted to cheat on your partner, you should first consider whether or not you want to be in the relationship at all.




 You may have fallen out of love with your partner, or you may not be in the state of mind for a monogamous relationship at the moment; either way, the best thing you can do is leave the relationship before betraying your partner.

 However, if you do decide to cheat on them, there are steps you can take to both keep them in the dark about your activities, then throw them off the the trail if they grow suspicious.

Use your phone minimally. If your partner sees a sudden spike in calls or texts to your affair’s phone number, this could raise suspicions. Keep phone calls brief, and text only when necessary. The majority of your communication should be conducted through your designated email account.

Laugh at their suspicions instead of getting mad. By getting mad, you’re signaling to your partner that you have a negative reaction to their accusation, rather than a bewildered one. 

Anger also transitions quickly into an argument, and arguments get drawn out and linger in the back of the mind. You want to avoid attaching lasting, negative memories to this conversation, and the best way to do that is to keep it from getting heated.

Don’t laugh in a mean-spirited way, and don’t make fun of your partner for having their suspicions.Simply act surprised or bewildered by the suspicions, as though it never would have occurred to you that you were acting in a questionable way.

Talk to them about their suspicions. After your initial light-hearted reaction, you don’t want to run away from the conversation, as this might make them feel like you’re not taking their feelings seriously. That resentment can also linger and fester, so you want to address this head-on.

Tell them that you’re sorry they feel that way and that you didn’t even know that you were causing them to feel insecure in the relationship.Allow them to voice their concerns, and be a good listener — don’t interrupt them or get defensive.Make note of their specific suspicions, as this will let you know what mistakes you’re making.

Change some of your suspicious behavior. If you let your partner speak honestly, they may have given you a list of specific concerns they have about your behavior. If you change that behavior without warning, it may only make them even more suspicious.

 However, if you have an open conversation with them about how you promise to change those behaviors, they will interpret your changed behaviors as dedication to working on your relationship.Tripping all over yourself to completely change your behaviors might make you look like you’re overreacting or have a guilty conscience. 

Don’t make dramatic changes.Simply change your behavior enough to demonstrate that you’re making an effort to maintain trust in the relationship.


If your partner is too on-target with their suspicions, it may be time to call off the affair, or at least put it on hold until the danger passes. Even after the conversation about your partner’s fears, even after you promise to make them feel safer in the relationship, your partner may still harbor suspicion. Don’t take unnecessary risks.


You should have an affair with a married men/women


You may choose to do this with a woman that is married and the instant pressures you may feel will be the point that you can’t unexpectedly choose on whether you miss her and that you feel like visiting her for a fast lovemaking meeting and more. She has a husband and perhaps kids as well so it is vital to determine what the limits in your affair are.


This is very significant when you certainly do not want to get caught as well. You should take control of your urge and always know when the perfect time is to avoid the married woman. 


Cheating with a married man, or with a married woman as well, needs a lot of control on both sides of the affair, since we all know that a majority of these affairs are controlled by loads of attraction that is mostly physical amid the two parties concerned. Particularly at first, both parties feel like they can rip off each other’s clothes wherever and at any time. That’s where it is essential to show discipline and know when to say no to the great temptation.

Raising any needless suspicions or not getting caught will make certain a long lasting affair. That is what the two of you mostly want and it is therefore vital that you take note of these significant affair tips.


 For a woman cheating with a married man it is most often than not that she feels like she is the other woman and this results to all sorts of frustrations and doubts in the affair. The way to make love with your hooked man becomes an issue as the thought of being the other woman begins playing on your mind and it shakes the affair in an undesirable way.


 If you want what you have to keep on going, then it is very vital that you deal with this and find a way to get rid of it in your mind. You should never try any affair if you are not certain what not to do and what to do. This will certainly destroy most of the odds you had in having a fruitful affair.


Warning;  Cheating on your partner might be emotionally devastating for them if you get caught. Odds are, you don't actually dislike your partner. Out of consideration for them, you should end the relationship if you're unhappy in it, rather than cheating on them.

The repercussions of your cheating might follow your partner into future relationships. Don't shatter their ability to trust. It's easier to get over a breakup than a betrayal.Even if you stay together after you're caught cheating, you will have to do a lot of work to rebuild trust. 



The relationship may never be the same.Infidelity often results in broken relationships. If you want to stay with this person, don't cheat on them.

Thursday, 4 February 2016

TIPS TO KEEPING YOUR RELATIONSHIP INTERESTING

Falling in love is actually easier than you would expect. You do not need to make a plan for it. You only need walk into someone beautiful…..a good-looking damsel…. maybe it’s the reflection of light on her hair or the beauty of her smile that smites you. You actually need no preparation.

 It’s true that we need a little planning to win her over, just as you need a lot of work to keep love everlasting. Love in a relationship needs grooming to sustain it.

 Like a seed in a garden, you need to water it, mulch the land, add fertilizers and prune the plant for the best result. So here are some tips to keep things ever interesting.



Go places together


Ladies love to be shown off. As a man, you need to recognize that. take her out. Fly her like a kite for all to see. Hold hands and kiss in public. She needs to feel your proud show off


Be supportive


One thing I have found all relationships needy of is support. We all want a partner who is both understanding and supportive of us. In a relationship, bring that. Make your partner know that you have their backs no matter what.

 It makes them very happy and trusting. No one will leave you when they believe you are the best and most supporting partner out there.

Always be supportive and show understanding. Let him/her know you will always be their number one fan.




Set goals together


A couple that achieves things together stays together. If you want to give your relationship life, you have to set goals and achieve them together. You remember the feeling of passing an examination that you did not need to fail? Finishing up something that meant a lot to you?

As a couple, when you set goals together, it gives you focus. Something to work together at. You lean on each other and trust the other. You go back together to plan and work as a team.

Tell me! How can you go wrong with achieving things together? Nothing beats that feeling of knowing that no matter what, you have someone who can help you share your burdens and carry your weight.



Fuel you funnometer


Never let yourself lose what made you fun to be with. Routine and boredom usually sets in after awhile for couples. From been the life of the party, you just might wake up some-other  day realizing that you no longer fun. You have exchanged interesting conversation for complaining about the weather.


Continue to plan the weekend retreats that you always had as a couple, in the beginning. Seduce her in the kitchen, on the weekend midnight when the baby is sleeping. Kiss under the moonlight and take walks together. Make up fantasies together, dream big of how to do the impossible things.

The reason your relationship is in danger is because you are forgetting to make an effort in been interesting. You no longer read up jokes to share with her. You stopped writing her love-notes that you hide away in the kitchen cabinet or in pillow cases.



Divide and conquer


Instead of quarreling about chores and who is responsible for what, just try this new pattern. Whenever work at home compiles, divide it up and do them together.you didn't always see doing stuff together as bad.

You did dry up the plates while she washed, didn’t you? Are you not the same gal who made him lie while you tried the pedicure on his toes. Your partner is your lover. Learn to share things together……….. Even work.

It actually takes the sting off the bickering


Stay focused on the positives

A relationship will always be good if both people in it see most of what is positive alone. The more you stay on the good, the less important the negative part of your spouse is. 

Actually, no one is perfect, not even you. If you can keep that in mind, it will do you a lot of good.
After all, she does put up with you while you snore up a storm in bed, pick your dirty nose and even mess up the toilet seat. 

Keep your focus on her positive sides and appreciate her for it. If you can do that, your relationship is guaranteed to last longer and still remain most interesting.


Forgive


Forgiveness is a gift. One that you should give freely to your partner. Loving someone means also that you will be vulnerable to that somebody. Just like nakedness, it unveils you before that person and all flaws hidden under clothes see the light.

In other to love and keep the fire burning, you have to be willing to easily forgive. Your partner will make mistakes and hurt your feeling as is normal.

Your ability to forgive and re-embrace them will be what keeps everything going. In the same manner, you will make mistakes and will be forgiven.

Never stop loving your spouse. It’s the real secret to keeping things going. Find ways to please them. A worthy relationship is when both partners put the other person first.



 If you will put him before you, if you can make her needs more important than yours……… you will have a worthy and interesting relationship.

Thursday, 28 January 2016

9 WAYS TO GET A HOLD OVER MOUTH ODOR

 Halitosis, otherwise known as bad breath, might not be an emergency in health and dental care. It is definitely not in compare with the kind of tooth decay/pain wrecking episodes that have you in captive. 



But to open your mouth in public and have everyone scamper and cower sure puts you in the class of a weapon of mass destruction.So here are nine ways to eradicate halitosis.

SAY HELLO TO THE DENTIST.


I advise the first step to eradicating mouth odor as seeing a dentist. Why? Well, not all cases of bad breath can be solved by taking these measures listed in this article. 

On the off chance that you case is such that needs operative procedures, like a defect in your lungs and esophagus, seeing a dentist will make you best equipped to tackle your troubles. 

To your unasked question, yes! Mouth odor can be caused by bits of food that travel wrongly into your lungs and decay, causing a foul odor whenever you exhale. Therefore, seeing a doctor covers those contingencies.

BRUSH YOUR TEETH TWICE DAILY….AT LEAST.


To eradicate bad breath, brush your teeth at least twice daily. Every morning you wake up, and before bed, brush your teeth to sanitize your mouth and curb the bacterial activities in your mouth.  If you can, brush after every meal. 

This is most necessary if you already have a case of halitosis. In doing that,  scrub your tongue with either a tongue scrapper or your tooth brush, to remove the accumulation of bacterial activities building on your taste buds.

FLOSS AFTER EVERY MEALS.


Knowing that bad breath is like a rip in your pants that show your dirty underwear,  save yourself the shame by flossing regularly. When you chew food, residues of your meal hang in there between your teeth.

 For this reason, you are advised to floss after every meal. This removes the bits of your meal that if left, decays and makes your mouth foul. Regular flossing after meal, rinse your mouth with water after meals too.

MOUTH RINSE.


Although mouth rinse is temporal in helping, it is still helpful as a sure way to hiding mouth odor. It might not be best for eradication but it keeps your mouth fresh and respectable in short term basis. 

For best result, use it after meals, especially as you might not be in a position to immediately brush your teeth. Typically, if you are having a sit-in lunch at the office.


IF YOU USE DENTURES …


Remember to remove them at night before you sleep, and clean them out. Use disinfectants that have been screened and approved by your dentist. Remember that they are good reasons to cause bad breath if you don’t take care of them.

CHEWING GUM.


There are chewing gums that have been adapted to keep your mouth fresh and flavory. Herbal, minty chewing gums that keep saliva circulating and help you avoid a dry mouth. 

These gums also limit bacterial activities in your mouth while helping in strengthening your gums and teeth.

EAT FRUITS THAT WILL HELP YOUR DENTITION.


Apples are very advisory in keeping your mouth fresh, while eradicating mouth odor. You can also wash orange rinds and eat them. They keep your mouth in fine condition, with a nice fragrance, just as they also act as anti bacterial.

 Aniseeds are anti microbial too. Cloves, celery, carrot and fennel seeds. Crunchy fruits actually help the mouth retain very fresh disposition when u open your mouth.

DRINK A LOT OF WATER


Having a dry mouth is a sure reason for mouth odor. So drink up. Not just water but take a lot of fluids to keep your body hydrated. When dry, our mouth is sure to emit foul odor. So drink a lot of water and keep both mouth and body hydrated.

TOBACCO AND TOXINS


Smoking, apart from drying out your mouth, has an unpleasant odor it emits in your mouth. So it goes to say, quit smoking; not if you want to keep your mouths smelling nice. Also, if your food contains garlic and onions, or any other dish with a strong odor after eating that can come off as offensive, 
brush after eating. 

Onions and garlic can be tamed by drinking a glass of milk after the meal. Artificial toxins in our food intakes and drinks might also contribute.
 Therefore watch what you eat because we all want the swagger of a star and breath that’s fresh like the wind……winks.






Wednesday, 27 January 2016

9 THINGS ONE CAN DO TO GET RID OF BODY ODOR

                               
Top on the list of things that can be an affront in a person’s public persona is a bad smell. There’s a popular saying that though u bath a pig, dress it. . . . . . a pig is a pig. One can easily pig you off the list for carrying an unpleasant smell. So here is to getting rid of the pig stink u might have taken up like a headliner.

Things you need to do to help you get rid of body odor:


Top on the list is regular baths. Most smells emitting from our bodies are usually brought about by sweating. Moist environment and a combination of toxins from our skins that the body emits as its ritual cleaning system, creates a not needed smell.

 So to keep yourself crisp and clean, have regular baths to relieve your skin of that odor. This alone does over fifty percent the job needed to rid you of odor.



Wash your clothes regularly after use. And in a case you don’t, air them after wear to dry out the sweat and bacteria. Putting them back in the bag only causes them to smell. 
This also affects every other cloth in the bag or locker. Before you know it, all your clothes wear bad odor like fragrance.

 Most importantly, never wear already worn undies. Change them whenever you have your bath.
Bad odor and body smells have also been caused by unwashed and dirty feet.

 Always wash and change your socks and air your shoes? Have you ever visited perhaps a gal/boy you like and pulled your shoes only to have the room color like the smell of a waste disposing factory? Well, now we know why not to.

Shave your armpits and public areas. Hairy pits and pubes are naturally offensive. The concentration of pores in those areas and the secrecy in their location makes them a high risk zone for nasty smells. 
Shave them regularly and keep them dry to limit bad odor.


It is at this point I remind you of the need to use deodorants and good body sprays, perfumes. It not only helps to hide the body smells but make you comfortable. A body perfume that is pleasant makes you happy. It attracts people to you and lifts your disposition. Cleanliness naturally improves your social health.

For specific areas that need attention on your body, you can wipe down your armpits and pubes with vinegar. Apple cider vinegar has a high ph level that makes it difficult for bacteria to thrive in it. So to keep the smells away, rub them on your armpits and let it soak for 5- 15 mins, depending on how serious yours is.

 This will rid you of bad odor if use repeatedly. You can also use lemon juice where apple cider is not available. Press out lemon and rub. Do not scrub.

Wear silk and cotton more in your clothing. These kinds of clothes will let your skin breathe and tolerate air circulation on your skin surface. Polyester and wool are usually worst of in hot and humid regions.

Another very important thing to consider will be a ruthless de-toxification regime. Imbibe exercises that purge your skin and body by sweating it out. Rid your body of skin clogs. Find time to blow out your pores.
 Clean your skin with skin detoxifiers and go for saunas. You need to open your pores and give your body freedom to inhale or exhale.

Second only to bathing regularly, eat meals that will detoxify your body. Bad smells are either from what emanates from within or what clogs from without. Improve your diet. Eat foods that clean your system internally to remove that smells.

 Bad odors can come from the occasional constipation, gases in your bowel, or toxins on your skin. Cucumber and carrots are very good de-oxidants. Rosemary, sage, watermelon, banana, a lot of these fruits in your regular diets will sure do wonders for you.

Wednesday, 11 November 2015

HOW TO GET ANYONE TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU

I remember back when I was a teenager, we all had this secret gal/boy who we felt we were in love with. I, for one, would spend nights and day wishing I could hold hands with her or steal the magic kiss. I spent days, of course nights too, dreaming of the moments our lips would come together for the first time. I wanted the power to make her fall hopelessly in love with me. 



Every woman dreams of been loved by an alpha male who can make all her world perfect. Every guy wants the ever green diva with the charm, poise and fire of a vixen. So here are possible steps, in no giving order, with the assurance to make it happen.

STEP 1

CREATE A UNIQUE PERSONA SUITABLE.

I do not care what person you have set eyes on. That person is winnable. Be it the queen of royal Britain or the gal/guy next door. It can be the boss or superior you need on your side at the office. Do your research on what that person is attracted to and create a persona that matches that. To win anyone, you need to make the person see you in the light of what they love in people. 

It is very dangerous to build an image based on falsehood because it never sustains itself. Under the right lightening, everything crumbles. Therefore, build an image showing off all your best original attributes. In doing that, ask yourself; what kind of person do I need to be to this individual? Once you know this, you are on the path to building your public image.

STEP 2

CONNECT TO PEOPLE.

Having created a unique persona, do not try too hard to make it work. Be natural in your element. The most important factor to put in place will be taking good care of yourself. People should see you as one who takes good care of himself. 

Only after that is step two possible. This is when you learn to connect with people. Your bosses, your friends and everyone. The object of your attention must feel important in your life. Remember that no two individuals are the same. Therefore, connect to this person as to share their life’s passions. 

A)     Be understanding and patient. Learn to listen and seek them out before you talk back. And since that cannot be always, apologies when you speak out of turn.

B)      Create trust in him/her. Give them the right to believe in your discretion, your sense of honor and the reliability of your person.

C)      Treat that person as a hero in life. We all need to be adored. If you make anyone feel like life revolves around their importance to you, they become in love with the idea and gravitate to you for reasons to feel good about themselves.

D)     I have learnt in life that the key to open people up to you is to be open to them. Test this, in the process of bonding; share a secret of perceived secret. The lady/man of your dreams will most likely open theirs to you too. They feel affinity to you through shared secrets.

E)      Finally, cultivate a positive and up attitude towards people. To share love is to receive love. I guess Ghandi did show us that. The more you love and share with anyone, the more you plant in them the need to love and share with you. If you make it rain, you are sure to get wet too……… African proverb for giving and receiving.

To get anyone to love you, learn to connect to them both individually and collectively. 


STEP 3

BE AUTHENTIC, BE VULNERABLE.

It is important as a person to show strength. A woman who can hold her own part of any bargain is not only considered sexy and formidable. Have you ever felt the amazons depicted as anything but incredibly sexy and beautiful. And if you have heard of the supreme alpha male, then you already know what I mean. Be authentic and strong. Have a set character and reliability. Let people know you to be true to your words and deeds. And to now sweeten the deal, feel free to be occasionally weak and show flaws. 

Call at times to lean on her/him. It’s ok to cuddle, even for a man. Though others might see your strength, do not be afraid to show her you are needful of her always. After all, we all need to feel relevant in a relationship that calls us important. Be strong, but be vulnerable to the one you have eyes on.

STEP 4

BE CONFIDENT IN YOUR SEXUALITY

It’s amazing how much people feel afraid or uncomfortable in their sexuality. There is nothing wrong with been fiery or brazen. It’s okay to be bold, to be shy or to be playful. Learn to be comfortable with your body. Been naked with someone is not meant to be intimidating……when did pulling off your clothes become anything but liberating. Its free, it is fun, it is to be alive. You can never compare skinny dipping to the pool. 

Both might be fun, but one is more fun than the other…….winks. Be confident in your sexuality. It is what it is. Pot belly, tiny boobs, bowlegs, or the sagging thighs…… I have seen people who are attracted to them all.

STEP 5

INDIVIDUAL PROGRAMMING

This I know you have been waiting for. To get anyone to love you get them in the scope of your telescope. Zoom in close. It’s time to get up-close and personal.

a)      First, you find out what he/she likes. Like I said earlier, be it boss at work or gal/boy next door, what do u see them doing? What are they known to appreciate? Make a list of that and let’s get busy on them.
b)      Secondly, we make time for the person. Time is needed to make yourself obvious to the person. Draw positive attention to yourself. Having created a unique persona, shed light on yourself. Be seen and be heard. Get them to admire or like you. Come strong as intelligent whenever you are heard, yet do not be loud. Also get into their activities and make them your friend. 

c)       Set a date. Add some more dates. Be lively, entertaining and very interesting. Most importantly, be a great date. Give him/her the time of his/her life. The experience of perfection, according to their likes. Hey! Do not sleep through the opera. If you do not get it, be conscious to ask and be taught. It’s very endearing because he/she feels you are both sensitive and vulnerable.lol. That is not bad at all. You have given her the responsible task of teaching you something new. A need to become prima.

d)      Finally, now, that you have things in motion, keep it exciting. You already have a load of information on what makes the person tick. Keep them spiraling in a load of fun and before things settle in and the magic seeks depth, you would have been loved. You are now the product of coordinated symphony. 

You can get anyone to love you if you studiously follow these steps. But I must warn you that with knowledge comes the responsibility to its usage. Be as kind to this information as you are wise to it. Treat everyone with respect and be true. First, to you, then to everyone around you. I wish you luck.